Thursday, July 7, 2011



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Wednesday, July 6, 2011

Patience is a Virtue

Or in this case, a time filler-upper.  The reason for delay.  A good excuse!  HA!

Sorry folks, looks like one more day.

One more day for the surprise being thrust upon the world!

CJ...CONGRATULATIONS once again!  I hope the wait will be worth it.

In the meantime everyone, enjoy a few photos,  and this short video of the MASSIVE DUST STORM  that moved through our city last night!


Monday, July 4, 2011

And The Winner Is....


CJ has been following our blog for sometime and so appreciate her.  Please, head on over to her blog, click the link above, and send her some love.

CJ,. your prize, and handy work, will appear on Wednesday.  This will be part of our...

That's right...come Wednesday, something we have been working on for some time will launch, and your tagline will be up, in all it's glory!  However, I did make a few chances, editors privileges you know.  Hope you wont mind!

SO, Wednesday, come here, be redirected, and see the new Web site...
(Mark, you were right all those months ago)


Friday, July 1, 2011

Tagline Poll!

So many of you submitted!  So many of you will lose! (HAHAHAHAHAHA)


What are yo going  to win?  Not a clue. But it will be good...I promise!!
But, c'mon, you were adventurous!  You submitted to our little tagline request, and now, you may be on your way to greatness.


It's a secret.  I will tell everyone right after we close the poll.  And, the winner is announced.

So, thanks to ALL who contributed.

Now, everyone else.

(upper left side, please)

Vote as often as you like!



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Saturday, June 25, 2011

We need a new tagline!

I want a new tagline.  ya know, the one up under the blog title:  "Ramblings of a Stay-At-Home-Daddy" is just...well, it's just...mindless...boring...old...!

Can you help?

C'mon everyone, you read my juvenile rants and bouncing erratic know me better than anyone.  Or, rather, you know our blog.

Once we determine the best tag line submitted, by your votes soon, we will announce an exciting change...finally!

Please, give it your best shot...tell me what ya think it should say...and win a cool prize.  We'll decide the best ones (5 or 10), and post them in a poll...then, you vote the best...and win.

Could be a signed book by one of the authors on our blog.

Might even be a t-shirt with a Bella saying on it.

Who knows, could even be a bumper sticker (lol)

Sarcastic is good.  Funny is hot!

Do it.  Help a Blogger Buddy out.

Suggestions will be posted on the upper left of this blog.  Please, feel free to vote as many times as you wish.  Don't forget to check back often, as I will update the poll as they come in.

Bella sends her HUGZ!  (if I could bottle them, I would be rich.  She gives THE best hugz!)

Friday, June 24, 2011

Watch Our Kids Around Water!

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A few years back, (wow - a few years!) I printed a post about water safety.  I written mostly out of sadness and frustrations, after watching the local news programs.  And, in the several years now, that I have been posting, this (unedited) version, from a few years back, is the ONLY time I have gotten a (semi) negative comment on a post.  It was from another Dad blogger who had  a family member who'd almost drowned, and was now a paraplegic.  I never meant to offend, or hurt anyone, ever.  Only to help by bringing attention to a huge problem in our area, and what should be huge, across the nation.

Here it is, edited and revisited for current times.

You can see, even Bella has stayed current  LOL!

Happy Fatherhood Friday & Happy Summer!

WARNING: This is Fatherhood Friday & Good Friday but the following is NOT a feel good posting. BellaDaddy's sharing important info on water safety. Therefore, if you were looking for a feel good, make you wanna smile all day type of posting, head on over to DAD EXCHANGE...plenty to read and feel good about there.

Here?   Let's just say, someone needs to write this, and MORE need to read it.

Every year around this time, our local news is flooded with drownings and near drownings. ALL of which should NEVER have even come near to happening. Sadly, it does.

Every year, I sit and watch, tempted to change the channel or turn off the news altogether, simply because I find it extremely difficult to comprehend. HOW on earth do people lose track of their kids, even for that spilt second? No Clue. Every year, it is the same. Gates left open. No Gates at all. Parents napping while toddler crawls out doggie doors...etc...etc...etc...I will never be one to point fingers, however, I cannot advocate stupidity. We should ALWAYS be watching our kids...regardless of how tired, overworked, busy, etc...ALWAYS!, hoping, praying that this never happens to us, or anyone we know.

So, with that being said, please review the following tips. And remember,


Drowning Threat

In many states, drowning is a leading cause of accidental death for children one through four years age.

Children drown in pools, spas, buckets, toilets and bathtubs. A child can drown in as little as two inches of water.

A child can drown in less time than it takes to answer the telephone.

67% of all drowning deaths occur in their own backyard pool, spa or hot tub.

The majority of drowning incidents occur while the caretaker assumed the child was safely indoors.

25% of all children who have drowned or nearly drowned have had swimming lessons.

The risk of a drowning or near drowning is highest during the first six months a family has a pool.

For every drowning, an additional five near drowning cases are treated in the emergency room. Irreversible brain damage occurs in 3 to 5 minutes.

In California there are more than 330 people with irreversible brain damage because of near drowning incidents. Of this total more than 75 people are currently hospitalized at a cost of $120,000 per year for life.

Drowning is a silent killer. The victims don't cry for help. They are not getting enough air to breathe, so they don't have the extra air needed to call for help.

Drowning Prevention Tips

There is no substitute for adequate supervision. Children need to be watched. Never leave children unattended in or around pools or spas - not even for a second.   Although accidents do happen, these particular types can be/should be, minimized!

Access to the pool or spa area should be limited by locked doors, windows and self closing, self latching gates on fences surrounding the pool. Latches should be above the reach of children.

Do not allow children to play in pool areas. Keep toys out of the area.

Keep rescue equipment such as a long handled hook and a ring buoy with a rope hanging near the pool.

Many floatation toys are thought to be lifesavers but they are not! They are only toys and should be used only as toys and with adult supervision.

Install a phone by the pool so you can answer it without leaving children unattended.

Always keep chairs, tables, or toys away from the pool or spa fence to keep children from using them to climb over.

Do not allow anyone of any age to swim alone. Drowning happens to adults too. When you are entertaining a group of children or adults, have a designated pool watcher who is responsible for keeping track of everyone.

Examples of safe water behavior by adults are important for young children.

Always completely remove a pool or spa cover before use to avoid the possibility of anyone being trapped and drowning under the cover.

Have members of the family take a swim class and learn CPR.

Pools Inspection List

Is the fence childproof with bars not more than 4 inches apart? If it is a chain link fence, the diamond shaped opening should be no larger than 1 3/4 inches.

Are the gates self-closing and self-latching? The self latching mechanism should be out of the reach of children. Is the self-latching mechanism at least 54 inches, from the bottom of the gate? If less than 54 inches, the latching mechanism should be located on the pool side of the gate.

Are all the gates kept locked?

Are all exit doors and windows leading from the house to the pool kept locked and secured?

Are pool rules posted in a visible location?

Is rescue equipment kept near the pool? A ring buoy with an attached line and/or a long handled hook.

Is the pool cover completely removed or properly installed? Never use a pool with its pool cover partially in place.

Are steps and ladders leading to an above ground pool secured, locked or removed when the pool is not in use?

Are there plenty of approved PFD's (Personal Flotation Devices) available?

Are the diving board and any slides in safe operating condition?
Does the hot tub or spa have a solid, locking cover, and is the cover in place and locked when the spa or hot tub is not in use?

Is your pool surrounded by a 5 foot 6 inch high or higher fence or barrier?
Enjoy Your Summer!  Stay Safe!

Sunday, June 19, 2011

Happy BellaDaddy & Papa Day

AKA Happy Fathers Day!

Bella woke, jumped out of bed, and excitedly proclaimed it a Special Day.

 "Happy Fathers Day, Daddy & Papa.  I love You" 
Fathers day around these parts usually starts out with Daddy making pancakes, Bella and Papa snarf em down, and then Daddy starts Laundry.  Yeah I know, Laundry.  But hell, it has to be done.  Papa will go out and mow the lawn.
We exchange cards and gifts at breakfast.  Bella presents cards that she made in school.  The cards are actually bookmarks, feature her picture, and little hand created artwork.  So special!

We made reservations at a new restaurant.  New for us.  We like taking the little one out to different place.  Her favorite is Chili's.  Oh she grows, so will her taste buds LOL.  Today though, was Italian Fusion Japanese.  (don't even try to figure that one out.  Trust me, it was Yummy).

I like to reflect on this day.  (hell, I reflect everyday)  Imagine her as an infant.  Oh man, what on earth did we do then?  It seems so long ago,, and yet, she is barely going to be five years old.  Being a stay at home parent, the days run into each other...and then, BAMM!  She's in college!  (exaggeration, I realize, but you get the idea.)  Cherish every moment, even if those moments are blurred by laundry.

I've taken thousands of pics throughout her short, fun filled, clothing/shoes jammed  life, and some of those are featured here.  Who am I kidding?  MANY of them have been seen here.  Pics. Videos.  All of it.  Who can blame me?

We have a special family.  When Bella was born, she was one of only 800 or so families, WORLDWIDE, to be born into a family such as ours.  I'd say that makes our little family pretty darn unique.

We don't treat her as such,.  She is a girl.  Part of a small, loving family.  No different than our neighbors down the street.  But.  In the back of our minds, we know.  She IS special.  She doesn't realize it yet...but she will.  We can wait for that day.

Fathers Day is that day.  the one where you want everything to go smoothly.  It is MY day, after all.  But, in the grand scheme of is like any other Sunday.  We have chores.  We have to eat.  We have to play.  We argue,.  Daddy yells...*SIGH*  Another day.


THAT day.  To remember Fathers Day past.  Fathers Day!  Dream of the future!

WE ARE FATHERS!  Sometimes it still sends me reeling.  Thinking that we, Papa and I, are Dads!

Pretty Damn Good Dads Too!

When she runs up, plants a small kiss on our cheeks, and tells us she love us...damn it, we just frikkin melt.  WE MELT!  She knows what it means to love, and we are the fortunate recipients of that love.  We didn't have to teach her, she knows it.  The feelings  She knows when to express it.  She feels the love in her heart, and WE brought this little one to life.  Through our own Love.

We ended the day with BellaDaddy BBQing Chicken Shish Kabobs outside.  A rarity.  (it's HOT here) Even had to go buy a small tabletop (cheapy) grill.  But, heya, gets the job done.  Small Family + Rarely BBQ = Small Cheapy Grill!  We watched a movie, had some ice cream...and DAY DONE!

Hoping you had a SUPER FANTASTIC FATHERS DAY...To ALL the Amazing Dads out there...EVERYWHERE!


Friday, June 17, 2011


Just days before Fathers Day and here we are, another Fatherhood Friday!

Please head over to the BEST site for Dads...(and moms)

Share you stories, give your opinions, and find some new friends. 

I know, I do this every Friday, I say the same things every Friday, but c'mon...I LOVE these guys (and girls)

Share the love.

And, while you at it, share your favorite, or most memorable Fathers Day comments with ME! (and Bella)

Look for our special Fathers Day Post and What Fathers Day means to me, this Sunday!


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Thursday, June 16, 2011



...TALKS faster than the old FEDEX COMMERCIAL GUY?

...DANCES crazier than the DANCING BABIES?

... is able to LEAP tall bundles of Laundry?

... RAMBLES more than Donald Trump?

...BEATS BellaDaddy @ Wii Bowling? (truly, she does)

...EATS broccoli CUTER than a hamster?

Why, it's...

(yup, that's what she calls herself...)

Sorry, pic taken with cell Phone

Happy Thursday!

Friday, June 10, 2011

Thanks Guys!

About 3 years ago, the surrogacy program that we participated in, (ya know, to have our little Diva), called and asked if we would be interested in meeting a couple.  This couple was considering utilizing the program, and lived near us. 

We were thrilled, and flattered, to have been asked.  Of course we would do it!

We made contact, and invited them to our home.  Bella was in heaven.  They brought GIFTS! :-)

Great conversation was had.  We told them all about about our journey.  The good.  The bad.  And of course, they got to see the end result.  After all, Bella WAS sitting right there in front of them.

Sometimes, when talking to people about having children, you can see the gleam in the eyes. 
These two had "it!"

We wished them well, and offered to stay in touch.  Hold their hands along the way if needed.

We emailed back and forth for a short time...


Yeah, I know, long time.  But hell, we all get busy.  We received another email...they had stepped through that door.  Taken that long walk.  Forked over ALLOT of money...and VOILA...they were having:


OMG!  We couldn't help but think..."Um, were we responsible for this somehow?"  (of course we knew we weren't)...but still...just saying...or rather, pondering.

Anyhoo, they were absolutely thrilled.  So, we were as well!

A few days later.


Huh?  How?  No Way!

Yup.  Evidently the Dr. failed to make contact with the third little one.  Evidently the little rascal was hiding.
There is much more that I cannot share here, but in short, um, er, ahem,...THREE!

First off, who can imagine having three at one time?  Man Oh Man, one kid will exhaust the hell outta ya...but three?  OH MY!

OK OK, I know, it happens.  But still...I cant even begin to process, let alone know what is going through their heads.

Excitement?  Nervousness?  SHEER TERROR?  That's allot to plan for.  ONE was allot to plan for.  SHEESH!  Fortunately, they have an amazing Surrogate, and Surrogate Family.  Close friends, close by.  Including us!

We made contact once again and went to lunch at a great restaurant.  Fun was had, Bella adored the two of them...especially when the LEMON INCIDENT took place...YIKES!  And all this , started by one of the two about to be parents of THREE! 

This was the end result:


Yeah, they're gonna be just fine!

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Friday, June 3, 2011

They're Baaaaack!!!!

Dad-Blogs is now:

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Please check out the new site, the new blogs and all the other parents. We have some amazing new bloggers. Awesome camaraderie. Excellent Ideas, Suggestions and Parenting tips.  Loads of Humour, Opinions, & FUN!...pretty much something for everyone. 

Even Moms!

Every Friday, members will post a new blog entry, with a theme.  The next one is the BIG ONE: 


So don't miss out!

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Monday, May 30, 2011

A Day to Remember...

Our Memorial Day morning...relaxing outside. 
The little one and BellaDaddy, enjoying our snacks and drinks at our local Starbucks!

Enjoy the day, Everyone!

Thursday, May 19, 2011

Seriously, how many kids can say this?

Up close and personal!

Picked up the little one from school.  Stopped at our local grocery for her afternoon snack...and VOILA!

How coolio?!


Side Note:  I didn’t tell the entire story, but, when we walked into the Safeway/Starbucks, the kid behind the counter asked:  "Did you guys see the big wiener outside?" (I bit my lip)

Wednesday, May 11, 2011

Happy Anniversary!

Yup, 9 years will do it to you!

Happy Anniversary Papa!

9 years ago

9 years (and one Bella) later

Monday, May 9, 2011


We have so much fun. Can you tell?

Monday, April 25, 2011

What's Wrong With This Picture?

OK, you get three guesses, and the first two don't count! (like my Momma used to say).

We went to the Zoo, about a year ago, and still get emails, trying to get us to buy another picture. This picture is featured exactly as it appeared in the email.

So, really? LMAO!

Sunday, April 24, 2011

Happy Easter Everyone!!!

Enjoy the vid, with the help of our friend Sarah, and of course. Grandpa!

Monday, April 11, 2011

GaGa Glasses

Yup, you read it right...after all, Bella named them!

She names E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G!

We were headed to a company picnic. Cell phone camera.

A little blurred, but hey, Still...CUTE!

Happy Spring!

Thursday, March 31, 2011

Feedin' Da Ducks!

Bella hasn't been feeling all to well, with a nasty cough - AGAIN! So, after school yesterday, I'd decided it would be fun to get her out of the house....and what better way than to 'feed da duckies!'

We have the most beautiful park, literally one block from our home. It has lakes, wildlife, skateboarders and even a small amusement park. Of course, there IS a golf course attached.

A train runs in the park, as do joggers, bikers and lots and lots of families. On any given day, you will see people flying kites, BBQing, having birthday parties, playing soccer, basketball and racing remote controlled cars.

It is great fun...beautiful and so serene.

Until we arrived HA!

Enjoy the video!

Monday, March 21, 2011

Don't Be a Drag, Just Be A Queen!

OK, so here it is.....

It all started because my partner and I started watching RUPAULS DRAG RACE, three seasons ago. We were hooked!....and then, eventually,. so was Bella.

Last season ( SEASON TWO) a drag queen named JUJUBEE was introduced...she, and she alone (at the time) became our instant obsession. We adored Jujubee...

She was catty, sarcastic, and yet lovable...and quite beautiful. Breathtaking in fact! We were rooting for her, all the way through, to win. Alas, she did not...but...we were certified (perhaps certifiable?) fans!

Flash Forward to the present:

About 2 months ago, I received an email announcing two of our favorite drag queens would be hosting a show here in our city. I emailed my partner, he agreed...we HAD to go. Especially since the VIP ticket offerings were for a "Meet & Greet" WITH JUJUBEE & JESSICA WILD ! We were beside ourselves when the tickets we purchased, turned out to be in FRONT ROW, CENTER!

YAY FOR US. Not only were we going to meet her, but we were going to see her...up close and personal. A little too personal for some HA! We were, literally, right upside of her skirt. And any of the other numerous performers...feet away...and just some great pics though :-)

Bella was THRILLED! She knew we had to go without her, but she didn't seem to mind. (we don't get out allot without the little one, mind you) She knew she would have a fantastic time at our neighbor Tami's home...AND...

Bella asked Daddy top print out a picture of her..."so I can sign it - 'L-O-V-E B-E-L-L-A' and Daddy, you can give it to her. From ME"!

The show was great fun. Jessica Wild impressed the absolute hell out of the two of us. That chick can DANCE! Amazing, especially since she was dancing...all over the 4 inch stiletto's...DAYUM!!! BellaDaddy took 272 pics...of the show itself, and LOTS and LOTS of Jujubee and Jessica.

And then....

The time wait in line for 45 minutes, to be rushed through, (they had to close the theatre at a certain time), to meet the coolest female impersonators...even next to RuPaul, these girls are AMAZING!!!

We get in, (rushed) hugz all around, and I leaned over and (hurriedly) told JuJuBee that we loved her and Jessica but...our almost 5 year old daughter was a HUGE fan...and handed her the pic.

JuJu looked at the pic, sighed that sweet gasp of "awwwww"...and asked: "Is this for ME"? I told her it was and she was so thankful and gracious!

Then more hugz, pictures and kisses....(all super fast and rambling on my part). Jessica Wild asked for our email she can get copies of all the pics...

I think we made a few new friends!

We picked Bella up at 1AM, she had fallen asleep. The first things she says, when I wake her, in that cute little kid sleepy voice is, (along with a huge hug) :

"Daddy, I Missed You so Much"


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